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Knowing Your Why
One of the tools in my coach tool belt actually comes from Toyota. The Japanese automobile manufacturers came up with a simple but highly effective way of determining the root cause of an issue by asking a series of “Why” questions. As a coach, I often use this with my clients to help them understand…
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Embracing Anger
Anger is a tricky emotion for me, not one I generally enjoy. For years, I pushed it away, buried it inside or just avoided it altogether. Of course, this doesn’t work. Stuffing any emotion causes a negative reaction in the body. I’ve heard “Emotion” defined as “energy in motion,” and when we dam it inside,…
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I Don’t Know! (Or Do I?)
I struggled for many years not knowing what I wanted to be doing, just knowing it wasn’t what I was doing. I was good at my job and had gotten promotions, moving my way up to additional responsibilities and larger salaries. I enjoyed having people report to me and mentoring them, but most of my…
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Hurry Up, Already!
I don’t know about you, but I am, at times, very impatient. Take, for instance, the Internet. When I click on something, I want (expect) it to immediately appear. Don’t make me wait, Internet. Give me what I want when I want it. This impatience extends to other areas of my life, too. I get…
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Giveaway: What the Walrus Knows
Have you ever felt so frustrated and unsure of what to do next and you wish there would just be a sign to point you in the right direction? I remember feeling that way, MANY times, where it seemed everything I was doing was coming up short. I couldn’t figure out how to get the…
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To Change or Not to Change
I’ve always been fascinated by the interplay between change and resistance to change. Our lives, as humans, are constantly changing, and yet, we often resist this inevitability and try to cling to things, whether it’s relationships, jobs, our youth, children, pets, or even our favorite pair of jeans. Our bodies are built for homeostasis –…
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Love, Birds & Happiness
When you’re in love, everything seems special: the birds sing so sweetly, there is beauty all around you, and you can’t stop smiling. If only there was a way to bottle this feeling and pull it out on days when you don’t feel so good! Maybe we can… Scientists have discovered we have mirror neurons…
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Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable
As I write this week’s blog post, I’m sitting in an airport. I’m freezing, and I’m so cold I’m actually considering putting on all the clothes in my suitcase. I’ve had a job assignment the past couple days that has kept me on my feet for hours at a time. While I wore comfortable shoes,…
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Stop the Internal Violence
“Nonviolence means avoiding not only external physical violence but also internal violence of spirit. You not only refuse to shoot a man, but you refuse to hate him.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. The people who come to me for coaching aren’t struggling with self-control over whether to shoot someone or not. (Whew!) But this…
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Mindfulness
One of my mom’s cousins died unexpectedly a couple weeks ago. A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with cancer and is awaiting treatment to begin. And my dad is now home recuperating after a few days in the hospital. Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily lives – completing work projects, keeping…